Guidelines and Commonly Used Terms

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Escort terms starting with A

AAMPApartment-based Asian massage parlor, as opposed to a commercial establishment.ABCAmerican-born Chinese, also known as “banana”: yellow outside, white inside.ABJAmerican-born Japanese.AC/DCBisexual.A-LevelBritish parlance for anal sex. See also Greek.abrasionRubbing the body with a variety of materials from raw silk to leather to baby crecheA parent-child roleplay with one participant taking care of another. Also called ageplay, it can include the wearing and changing of diapers as well as bottle feeding.agencyAn organization or individual that manages many providers. The agency handles all calls, bookings and advertising. The agency takes a percentage of the fee for each session.AgeplayScenes in which at least one participant pretends to be significantly younger than he or she actually is.All coveredAlso all covered play. With condom.amazonA tall, strong, often masculine woman.AMPAsian Massage Parlor.animal playAnimal transformation fantasy: Games and scenes in which the sub (bottom) acts or dresses like a dog, cat, horse, etc. See ponyboy, ponygirl.AOWill see Asian clients only.ASPAdult Service Provider.analingusaka “Asian”: oral stimulation of the anus.Around The World

  1. Rimming. Oral sex on the anus of either sex, analingus
  2. Three acts in a session: oral, vaginal and anal
  3. Analingus and fellatio

AsianOral sex on the anus of either sex, analingus, aka rimming, DATO.Asian Cowgirlcowgirl with girl squatting.ATFAll Time Favorite.ATMAss To Mouth. Penis, finger or toy comes out of receiver’s anus, and goes directly into receiver’s mouth.attemptsTrying to reach orgasm. e.g. ASP allowed multiple attempts: means the ASP allows more than one orgasm per session if the client is able and interested.
aka MSOG.Aunt FloMenstruation, period. ‘Being visited by Aunt Flo‘.


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B&DBondage and Discipline.B&S, bait & switchDescribes a situation where ASPadvertisements, which may include photos, written or verbal descriptions, do not match the ASP who shows up, or which has been grossly misrepresented the ASP.babybackPetite, young, attractive Asian dykeA young lesbian or someone who is just coming out of the closet.bagCondom, with a condom, e.g. “BJ in a bag” = CBJ or “I filled the bag” = orgasm.Baja SurGenitals. From the Spanish “the low south”.balloonsBreast implants.bare back, bareback, BBWithout a condom. Depending upon context it may be used as shorthand for intercourse without a condom (BBFS).barracudaAn ASP whose only purpose is to separate you from your money as quickly as possible, preferably without giving you anything in return.BatinGroin massage, but sometimes means hand job(from Malaysia).BBBJBare Back Blow Job. fellatio without a condom; aka “un-translated French” (UTF).BBBJNQNSBare Back Blow Job No Quit No Spit; oral sex performed to completion with swallowing.BBBJTCBareback Blowjob To Completion. Oral stimulation of the penis to orgasm without a condom. (May spit or swallow), aka CIM.BBBJTCWSBare Back Blow Job to Completion with Swallowing.BBBJWFBareback Blowjob With Facial.BBFSSexual intercourse without a condom.BBKBig beautiful knockers.BBWBig Beautiful Woman. An escort, ASP, who caters to clientele that prefer overweight, obese women.BCDBehind Closed Doors. Often used to mean activities that will be described to a privileged listener or nobody at all.BDSMBondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism. This is a catch-all to refer to the various aspects of negotiated, mutually consensual exchange of power between two consenting adults. Regardless of the depth of the relationship, consent, safety and sanity are the cornerstone of this lifestyle.BearA large hairy (homosexual) man.beardA person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a closeted lesbian or gay person to cover up their homosexuality. In the past, often lesbians married gay men so that both could “pass” as straight, either for work or for their families.beretA condom.BFboyfriend.BFEBoyfriend Experience, A subjective term used primarily by ASP to describe good clients.birdwatchingBBBJTCWS or CIM and ASP swallows. See BBBJNQNS, NQNS.bisexualA person who is sexually and emotionally attracted to both women and pill or blue steelViagra.BJBlow job, fellatio, French. Oral stimulation of the penis.BLBody Lick.BLSBall Licking and Sucking.BNGBlow-n-go, a 15-minute oral-only session.Body-RubA massage or massage-like service. Used instead of “massage”, usually to indicate sexual stimulation (usually a handjob) is included and the person performing the service is not licensed as a massage therapist, aka FBSM, Sensual Massage.Bondage chairA piece of furniture, sometimes a very complex one, with varying number of restraints to keep a sub at dom’s mercy.Boston MarriageIn the late nineteenth century, it was common for two unmarried women to share a home. Many women, particularly those who were college educated, lived in long-term unions with other women. These relationships became known as “Boston Marriages”.BottomIn homosexual parlance: the passive partner. In BDSM: the submissive.Breath controlA type of BDSM play in which the Dom controls the Sub‘s access to oxygen. Can be dangerous.brown eyeAnus.brown showerDefecation on your partner.BS or body slideService where the ASP may slide their body on the client’s body using oil.BSBBus stop babe.bukkakeA variety of fetish that involves repeated ejaculation of a female by many men. See also gokkon.bulldaggerA term that was used in the 1920s to define a very butch lesbian. Often African American.bulldykeA very masculine lesbian.businessmen-only, gentlemen-only or professional-onlyA subjective request used in ASP advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The ASP posts this in hopes of attracting “better” clientele.butchA woman who adopts what would be considered masculine characteristics. Also a masculine homosexual.butter faceA women whose body is very attractive, but her face is not. Everything looks good but ‘er face.


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CampEffeminate male – from KAMP, Known As Male Prostitute.canine, K9See Doggy and dashA rip-off. The person posing as an ASP shows up, takes your money, doesn’t provide any services or might offer to “dance” (but more often than not does not), and leaves with the cash, aka dance and dash, ROB.CBJCovered Blow Job. Blowjob or with a condom on, aka translated French (TF).CBTCock and ball torture: application of clamps, cages, weights, wax, etc to male genitals as either punishment or tease and denial. Can be dangerous.CC RiderAn ASP who is FS for $200/hr or less. The “CC” bit is the Roman numeral for 200.CCLConcentration Camp Look.CDcross-dresser. 

  1. A person, and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite gender especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification.
  2. A person who sometimes wears the clothing and aesthetics of a gender other than the one they typically wear in their daily lives. See also transvestite

CDSCovered Doggy Style.CFMCome Fuck Me, usually refer to the look of a person.CFSCovered Full Service. Sexual intercourse (coitus) with a condom.CGCowgirl: she’s on top facing you.ChumpA man who gives his money and/or his attention to women without getting any pussy in return. Largely a phenomenon experienced by American men when dating American women.CIDCum In Deep. The provider lets you come inside her with no condom. See BBFS.CIHCum in Hair.CIMCum In Mouth (in the context of fellatio without a condom (UTF/BBBJ)), see also NQNS, BBBJTC.civilianA person who makes them self available for sexual encounters but not for financial gain. May be less discreet than an ASP and more interested in a relationship. Not to be confused with non-pro.CLCraig’s List. The classifieds board of the internet, and formerly a free place for providers to advertise. Not so much a of player since the removal of Adult and Erotic services.clock watcherAn ASP who counts the minutes until the session is over. Usually used to describe an ASP who rushes and does not enjoy her work.CMDCarpet Matches Drapes (typically a natural blonde).CMPChinese Massage Parlor.CMTCertified Massage Therapist. Generally a CMTis not an ASP. While an ASP specializing in massage services might be a CMT, it is unwise to assume a CMT is an ASP. Very unwise.COBCum On Body. Man ejaculates on a woman’s body.COFCum On Face. Man ejaculates on woman’s face, aka face painting or facial.COHCum on Hair.CottageTo cottage: to look for sexual partners in public bathrooms. Synonym: to cruise.coitusSexual intercourse characterized by the male penis entering the female vagina.collar and cuffs matchA euphemism to indicate that pubic hair color matches color of the hair on the head; natural hair coloring. Sometimes also referred to as ‘carpet & curtains match’.COMCum Over Mouth (in the context of fellatiowithout a condom (UTF/BBBJ)). Lots of women hate swallowing so use the term C-0-M instead of C-I-M.commercial companya euphemism for prostitution generally used by truckers.completionOrgasm. e.g. Bareback blowjob to completion.coverA condom.coveredVarious measures, such as the use of condoms or dental dams, are taken to avoid sexually transmitted diseases. (e.g. Covered Blowjob means a condom was used.).Cowgirl‘Girl on top’ position for sexual intercourse. Sometimes abbreviated CG (though this can be confused with the abbreviation for Call Girl as well. Mind the context for clarification.).crime scene actionSexual activity during the provider’s period (while menstruating). See also red wings.croneThe word “crone” was (and in some circles still is) a derogatory term for an old woman. In the 1970s, during the feminist movement, lesbians began to adopt the word crone to mean a wise older woman. Today, in lesbian and feminist circles, a crone is a wise older woman whose life experience demands that she be treated with respect.cruisingLooking for prostitutes while driving. Cyber-equivalents aren’t hard to imagine. Also, in homosexual slang, this is the same as “cottaging“.crushingFetish relating to dominance and control; a desire to see small, defenseless animals crushed under women’s high heels.cunnilingusOral stimulation of a woman’s genitalia. ‘giving head’ to a woman. ‘going down on’ a woman.cups of coffeeOrgasms, e.g. multiple cups of coffee means the provider allows more than one orgasm.


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dance and dashA rip-off. The person posing as an ASP shows up, takes your money, doesn’t provide any services or might offer to “dance” (but more often than not does not), and leaves with the cash. See cash and dash, ROB.DAPDigital anal probe, see digital penetration, aka A session with an ASP. (2) A person who patronizes an rape drugRohypnol (generic name flunitrazepam) has been associated with date rape, and has also been called the “Forget Pill,” “Trip-and-Fall,” and “Mind-Erasers.” In combination with alcohol, it can induce a blackout with memory loss and a decrease in resistance. Girls and women around the country have reported being raped after being involuntarily sedated with Rohypnol, which was often slipped into their drink by an attacker. The drug has no taste or odor so the victims don’t realize what is happening. About ten minutes after ingesting the drug, the woman may feel dizzy and disoriented, simultaneously too hot and too cold, or nauseated. She may experience difficulty speaking and moving, and then pass out. Such victims have no memories of what happened while under the drug’s influence.DATODining At The O. Analingus, oral stimulation of the anus. See also rimming and Asian.DATYDine At The “Y”; cunnilingus.DDEDoesn’t Do Extras. Implies the ASP has a very limited and stringently adhered to menu.DDFDrug and Disease Free.DDGDrop Dead Gorgeous.DDPDouble Digit Penetration (vagina and anus).deep throat or DTfellatio where the whole length of the penis is “swallowed”.defenderA hobbyist who defends or “comes to the rescue” of a provider who has been reviewed or spoken of poorly, regardless of whether the review or comments are accurate, aka White Knight.deposita payment in advance of a session. Deposits are usually used by ASPs as a hedge against no-shows.DFEDead Fish Experience.DFFDead Fish Fuck.DFKDeep French Kissing. Kissing with deep, substantial tongue contact.diesel dykeA very butch or manly lesbian, especially one who is very penetrationInsertion of the fingers (or toes) in the vagina or anus for the purpose of sexual stimulation. This has nothing to do with the insertion of digital devices up anyone’s orifice—hold on to those iPads!Dirty SanchezWhen two people engage in anal sex, then the person who has been ‘giving it’ to the other’s ass takes his penis or penis-like implement and rubs it on the other person’s upper lip leaving a moustache.DIYDo It Yourself (masturbation). See also self-service.doggie styleRear entry position for sexual intercourse. See Spanish.DominantIn BDSM, a person who administers the training to a submissive. Often shortened to Dom.donationA euphemism for a payment to an ASP. Generally considered a feeble dodge against legal concerns: after all if you are giving the ASPa donation or gift, you are not paying for sex.double penetrationwhen a person (generally a female) has two objects (generally penises) simultaneously inserted in any two of the mouth, anus or vagina (most commonly the anus and vagina).doublesA threesome with two ASPs.DP

  1. Double Penetration
  2. Digital Penetration

Drag kingA woman who dresses to look like a man, usually for performance. Drag kings are often lesbian, but not always.Drag queenA male who dresses like a female, usually for performance.DSdoggiestyle.DSLDick-sucking lips.DT or deep throatfellatio where the whole length of the penis is “swallowed”.dykeAnother word for lesbian. Usually is only used by people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans. A straight person using this word may offend some people.


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EDErectile Dysfunction.EEErotic Enema.EllieLaw Enforcement. The euphemism stems from the fact that people would refer to Law Enforcement with the abbreviation, “LE”. When expressed phonetically it was confused with the female name, “Ellie“. Since confusion and chaos rule despite people’s best efforts—.EMAExtra-Marital-Affairs. Affairs after marriage, but before divorce.EMPEuropean Massage Parlor (white girls).EnglishSegment of bondage and discipline; including spanking /whipping.enhancementsImplants, most commonly breast implants, but sometimes penile implants (depending upon context).envelopeOften cash payments for an ASP’s services are placed in an envelope. Rather than handing the ASP cash directly, or discussing money, the envelope is left in a conspicuous location for the ASP to discreetly pick up.EOMEnd of Message. Used in a subject line of a forum post to indicate no further content in body of message—where the title is intended to be sufficient.escort definitionAn escort is an Adult entertainer who is compensated for his or her time and companionship.escort mall, mallA website that advertises many different ASPs. The ASPs may be independent or agency, and may or may not be associated with
each other, or with the mall.


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F2FA female doing something to (providing a service for) a female.f2mA female doing something to (providing a service for) a male.face paintingMan ejaculates on woman’s face, aka facial or COF.face sittingIn BDSM, a form of erotic humiliation, whereby the dom sits on the face of a sub to force oral-genital or oral-anal contact.facialMan ejaculates on woman’s face, aka face painting or COF.Fag hagA woman who likes homosexual males.FairyA male homosexual.FBSMFull Body Sensual Massage. A massage usually ending with a hand job. Often times the provider is nude or topless, aka Body Rub, Sensual Massage. Spelled “FBSM+”, means “with a bonus” and usually means a BJ.fellatioOral stimulation of the penis, aka Blow Job (BJ), ‘giving head’ (f2m or m2m).femmeA feminine lesbian, cf. butch.FDAUFace down, ass up.FFFThe strategy of “Find them, Fuck them, Forget them”.fistingThe act or art of putting a fist in an anus or vagina. Apparently a very popular practice among more evolved (kinky) gays. It requires great care and huge amounts of lubrication.FIAFinger In Ass.FIRFinger In Rear.Fire and iceproviding a blowjob with the mouth filled alternately with hot tea and ice.FIVFinger In Vagina, digital stimulations.Five-OA police officer (uniformed or undercover). The cultural reference stems from the 1970’s TV show “Hawaii 5-O”, which derived its name from the name for Hawaii State Police force.FJFoot Job. Stimulation of the penis using feet and toes.FKFrench Kissing.FKKFrei Körper Kultur, German nudist subculture.FLFree Lance.flakeOne who exhibits flaky or erratic behavior. Often used to describe ASPs or hobbyists who no-show and/or have scheduling issues.FMFThreesome designation: female, male, female.FOBFresh off the boat, a recent immigrant.FOBUFat-Old-Bald-Ugly.FOTCFuck Of The Century.FOVFinger Outside Vagina.FRField Report, Fuck Review.Foot fetishaka Foot warship – intense sexual interest in the shape, size, smell, texture and other characteristic of a foot.FrenchOral stimulation of the penis. Fellatio. “Translated” = with a condom. “Untranslated” = without a condom.French KissingKissing on mouth with tongue contactFrench letterCondom.FSFull service. Sexual intercourse (coitus) to completion.FTFFun To Fuck.FUDFear, Uncertainty and Doubt. What some (asshole) posters try to spread when they post on public forums with false accusations of LEactivity and STD outbreaks.full meal dealSexual intercourse (coitus) to completion, aka Full Service.FUTBFinger Up The Butt.


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GayborhoodA gayborhood is a gay-friendly neighborhood or an area of town where gays and lesbians are known to live.GaydarThe ability to determine who is and isn’t gay.Gay dirtAn attractive young male used by the police to entrap homosexuals.gender expressionThe physical manifestation of one’s gender identity, usually expressed through clothing, mannerisms, and chosen names.gender identityA person’s internal sense of being a man or woman or boy or girl. For transgender people, their gender identity will not match the gender with which they were born.gender identity disorderA term used by physicians and psychologists to classify people who are transgender or transsexual.gender varianceBehavior that is different from traditionally defined “masculine” in males and “feminine” in females.genderqueerSomeone who transgresses boundaries of gender identity and sexual orientation.gentlemen onlybusinessmen-only or professional-only. A subjective request used in ASP advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The ASP posts this in hopes of attracting a “better” clientele.Get brainReceive a blowjob.get comfortableGet naked. As a feeble dodge of law enforcement, an ASP may ask a client to “get comfortable” or “make yourself comfortable” before a session, this means to get fully undressed.GFGirlfriend.GFEGirlfriend Experience. A frequently used, but utterly nebulous term. It refers to a session that is more like lovemaking with a girlfriend than a commercial service, whatever that means! It generally implies more about the tone & tenor of the session than about specific services provided, but many believe GFE should include the possibility of DFK, DATY, UTF and a broad array of FS positions.GF3Girlfriend experience with all three holes.girl crushWhen two women have strong feelings for one another, but not in a sexual way. A girl crush is strong infatuation that one woman has for another woman who seems beautiful, sophisticated, charming or accomplished. It usually refers to heterosexual women.Glory holeA literal hole in the wall between two spaces. The legendary purpose of this hole is to insert one’s penis in hopes of receiving an anonymous (this is the main thrill) handjob, blowjob or coitus.glovecondom.GNDGirl Next Door.GOGGirl-On-Girl.gokkonA variety of fetish that involves swallowing and/or ingesting copious amounts of semen by either a man or a woman. See also bukkake.Golden shower, GSUrinating on your partner, urine play. See also water sports.Gold star lesbianA lesbian who has never slept with a man and has no intention of ever sleeping with a man.GoreanA BDSM subculture owing its existence to the world of Gor from the novels by John Norman. Gorean philosophy assigns stereotypical, “natural” roles to genders.Greekanal sex; anal sexual intercourse; penetration of the anus by the penis.GSMG-Spot Massage.


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Half & HalfBJ followed by FS; a combination of both oral sex and sexual intercourse; fellatio & coitus.HandballingInserting a fist (optionally – with a part of the forearm) into the rectum.hard sportsGiving or receiving. Playing with feces, also known as scat play or brown showers.Hardwood floorsClean-shaven pubic area.HasbianA woman who used to identify as a lesbian and dated women, but is now dating men.hatcondom.HCHigh Class.HDHHigh Dollar Hottie.HEHappy Ending: usually a handjob or a blowjob after a massage.Herb friendlyIs amenable to marijuana use, aka 420 friendly. A bit of advice: Adding drugs to your hobbying mix tends to give you a MUCH larger profile on Uncle Leo’s radar. An ASP, who has a rep for being herb friendly likely is getting way more attention from Uncle Leo than the more conservative hobbyists would prefer.HHHalf Hour.HHHJHalf Hearted Hand Job.hidden chargesAn ASP takes the advertised fee upfront, but in the midst of the session she asks for more money for more services. (e.g. She might undress and give a massage for the advertised $$, but then ask for an additional $ for French, or $$ for FS, etc.), aka upselling.Hindu massageThe woman contracts her vaginal muscles during sex to squeeze you to completion (Argentina).HJ or HandjobMasturbation; hand & finger stimulation of the penis by the ASP, aka hand release, manual release.HMHigh Mileage. A derogatory reference to the number of sexual partners a person may have had. Conveys an implication of showing the ‘wear and tear’ of the said mileage.HMEHoneymoon Experience. Supposedly better than a GFE, and even more nebulous. It refers to a session that is comparable to the intensity and passion of lovemaking while on one’s honeymoon. Mostly marketing hype.hobbySlang, euphemistic reference to the business of a client enlisting the services of an ASP.hobbyistSlang, euphemistic reference to one who (actively) participates in ‘the hobby‘.homophobiaFear or dislike of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.hookerProstitute.Hostess clubA lower end strip club where bargaining for sex acts with the dancers is acceptable, and some activities may occur on premises.HotdoggingAlso hotdoggin’. The pseudo-sexual act of placing the penis between the butt cheeks of the receiving partner. The penis being the “Hotdog” and the butt cheeks being the “Bun”. There is no intercourse, and usually no ejaculation. This is mainly a comical practice, and usually enjoyed by the giver more than the receiver. See also Italian.HTUMAHer/His Tongue Up My Ass, analingus.human ashtrayWaste receptacle at the services of superior human beings.humiliationActions aimed to cause a submissive a feeling they long after. These are the things they normally don’t do, like wearing bizarre clothing, having sex in public, playing puppy or pony, or accepting verbal abuse.HustlerA male prostitute. Same as punk.HWPHeight and Weight Proportional. “Normal” build.


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IncallClient meet the ASP at her location.independent, indieAn ASP who works on her own, without an agency affiliation. The ASP manages her own calls, bookings, advertising and finances.interpreterCondom (e.g. She spoke French without the aid of an interpreter = BBBJ).intersexA person born with ambiguous genitalia or genitalia of both sexes. Used to be called hermaphrodite.IPOInitial Public Offering. Used to denote the public introduction of a new ASP, usually via a review.ISOIn Search Of. A post/inquiry looking for something (presumably ‘something’ specific).ItalianSimilar to Russian, but the penis is placed between the partner’s butt cheeks. See also hotdogging.


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Jack ShackAn establishment (massage parlor, lingerie modelling) that is not usually full service; expect only massage (usually nude or topless) and hand job, but more services might be available.Jimmy HatA condom.JohnA man who patronizes prostitutes, a hobbyist.


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K9Canine, or doggy style.Kama Sutra or KamasutraA Sanskrit treatise setting forth rules for sensuous and sensual pleasure, love, and marriage in accordance with Hindu law.KGFEKorean GFE: with CBJ rather than BBBJ.KittyVagina and/or surrounding areas. The words you can expect to see used together with K. are “bald”, “partly shaven”, “trimmed”, “natural”.


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L/A/SLooks/Attitude/Service: A subjective ranking system where each criteria is separately ranked, from lowest (1) to highest (10). Examples: 2/9/8 = Unattractive, but very friendly and good sex. 10/5/4 = Model material, but a poor attitude, and mediocre sex.LASERSame as above + Expense and (would or wouldn’t) Repeat.labrysA double-sided axe that the Amazons were said to use as their main weapon. Lesbians have adopted the labrys as symbol of power and independence. Many lesbians wear necklaces or earrings with a labrys symbol as a way to identify themselves to other lesbians.Landing stripA style of pubic hair sculpting resulting in a narrow vertical strip.LapdogA hobbyist who worships an ASP to excess.Lay down doggieAlso lazy dog. Doggie style with woman flat on stomach.LDLap dance.LDLLow dollar looker, the opposite of HTH.LELaw Enforcement.LEOLaw Enforcement Officer.lesbianA woman who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other women.LFKLight French Kiss. Kissing with only light tongue involvement.LGBTAn abbreviation for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender.Lipstick lesbianA woman who loves other women, but also loves her clothes and makeup and shoes. She tends to dress on the femme side.Little blue helperViagra.LKLight Kissing (closed mouth).LMPLicensed Massage Practitioner. See also CMT. Can also mean “Latin Massage Parlor”.LMTLicensed Massage Therapist. See also CMT.Lone Star LesbianA woman who has only had sex with one other woman in their life. Straight and bisexual people can be Lone Stars as well, but Lone Star Hetero doesn’t sound nearly as interesting.LOSLand of smiles, Thailand.lot lizardA prostitute that works primarily in truck stop parking lots (usually soliciting from a CB radio).LPINLegal prostitute in Nevada.LTRLong Term Relationship. When an ASP drops out of the business for a very substantial stipend, paid weekly, or monthly for exclusivity she is said to be in a long term relationship. See also sugar daddy.


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m2fA male doing something to (providing a service for) a female.m2mA male doing something to (providing a service for) a male.MadameProprietress of an agency.MaidIn a British parlour, the person who answers the phone and books the schedule.MallAlso escort mall. A website like that advertises a variety of escorts or ASPs. The ASPs may be independent or agency, and may or may not be associated with each other, or with the mall.MamasanFemale manager of an asian massage parlor.Man in a boat, little man in a boatClitoris.Manual releaseStimulation of the penis to orgasm using hand and fingers, aka hand job, hand release.MassageA method of treating the body for remedial or hygienic purposes, including but not limited to rubbing, stroking, kneading, or tapping with the hand or an instrument or both. It may, but does not necessarily, include sexual stimulation. Sensual Massage indicates a massage with sexual stimulation (usually a hand job).MBRMultiple Bell Ringing (MSOG).MediterraneanAnal sex or analingus, e.g. “She took me on a trip to the Mediterranean.”. See also Greek.MenuThe services generally considered available from a particular ASP.merkinPubic hair wig / toupee. Also, something George W. Bush has repeatedly said he is proud to be.MFFThreesome designation: Male, female, female.MFMThreesome designation: male, female, male.MGMassage Girl.MIBMan in blue, law enforcement officer.MileageA subjective term that describes value for money and/or how accommodating an ASP is. Good mileage usually means she either charges less than average, provides better L/A/S than average, or both.MILFMom/Mother I’d Like to Fuck.MissionaryAlso mish. A position for sexual intercourse where the man is on top.MJMassage Job.ML

  1. Make Love
  2. Massage Lady

MMFThreesome designation: male, male, female.MohawkA pubic hair style leaving a narrow strip of hair in the middle of the pubic area, aka landing strip, muff hawk, cock mohawk.MongerShort for whore monger. One who frequents prostitutes. See also hobbyist.MP

  1. Massage Parlor
  2. Multiple Positions
  3. Multiple Pops (MSOG)

MPAMassage Parlor Attendant.MPCFSMultiple Positions Covered Full Service.MPOSMultiple Positions Oral Sex.MSOGMultiple Shots On Goal, also Multiple Pops. The ASP allows you the opportunity to climax more than once during the session.MummificationWrapping a person up with layers material in order to immobilize them (nose and mouth are left open for breathing). Used to induce the feeling of utter helplessness. Can be considered a form of sensory deprivation.


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NC/NS, NCNSNo Call / No Show. See also no-show.NewbieNewb, a novice hobbyist or novice ASP.NGPNon/Not Genuine Photos.NMGNo-Money Guys. Hobbyists who are on a strict (generally low) budget for hobbying.NoonerA lunch-time or afternoon session, popular with married hobbyists.Non-proA person who makes her/himself available for sexual encounters for financial gain only occasionally (possibly to meet some short-term financial needs). May be less discreet than a provider and more interested in a relationship. Some argue that ‘the line’ is more definitive: if you take money, then you are a professional.No-showWhen an ASP or hobbyist doesn’t show up for an appointment and has not contacted the other party in advance to cancel or warn of problems in making the appointment. A very annoying and, unfortunately, too common occurrence in the hobby. When the offending party doesn’t call afterwards to offer an explanation and/or apology the situation is referred to as a No-Show/No-Call (NS/NC) and is considered an even more egregious offense.No-touchNo touching allowed. (e.g. no-touch Jack shack, no-touch strip club).NQBCNon-quitter, but covered. CBJ to completion.NQBSNon-quitter, but spitter. BBBJTC and spits your ejaculate.NQNSNo Quit No Spit; oral sex performed to completion with swallowing.NSANo Strings Attached.NS/NCNo Show / No Call. see also no-show.


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O, O’sOrgasm or orgasms.Off the clockActivities that occur with an ASP that she chooses not to charge for. (e.g. “We had lunch off-the-clock“).ONSOne Night Stand.OTCOral To Completion. Fellatio to orgasm.OutAs in “outed”. Private, personal information on a hobbyist or an ASP is made public. e.g. Someone’s real name and address is posted to a public forum.OutcallThe ASP comes to the client’s location.Out of the closetBeing open about one’s (LGBT) sexual orientation.OVKOver the knee spanking – bending a submissiveover one’s knee and striking his or her buttocks with either an open hand or a cane, paddle, whip, etc.OVNOvernight.OWOOral Without, fellatio without a condom, aka BBBJ, UTF.OWOTCOral Without Condom To Completion.


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P2PPrivates to privates: rubbing genitalia together without insertion.P4PPay for Play. Refers to the concept of paying for sex.PapasanMale manager of an asian massage parlor.Party favorsDrugs.Party hatCondom.PFFPussy For Free (a myth).Pearl necklaceMan ejaculates on woman’s neck and/or chest, trying to produce a white ‘decoration’.PeggingAnal penetration of a male by a female with the help of either a buttplug or strap-on.PIITBPut it in the bum/butt.Pillow queenSomeone who likes to be on the receiving end of sex without much reciprocation.PimpA person (generally a man) who solicits clients for a prostitute.Pink boxingA slang term for anal or vaginal fisting.PIVPenis in Vagina.PLPathetic Loser.PMProstate massage or Private message (on a forum).POPhone operator.Ponygirl or ponyboyA popular roleplay fantasy that sees the submissive transform into a pony with the help of a harness, reins, gag bit, and a tail attached to a butt plug. The “pony” is expected to prance and/or pull a cart.PoonerA hobbyist who is immersed in the hobbyculture. He may be very involved with the review boards and/or private exchange of information on ASPs and the hobby.Pop, popsOrgasms. An ASP may allow a client to have more than one orgasm during the session (e.g. more than one or multiple pops allowed).POSPussy on the Side. Usually referring to hobbyists in relationships who are getting some POS.Power dykeA lesbian who has gained a position of power, either within the LGBT community, or in the world at large.Professional-onlyAlso gentleman-only, businessmen-only. A subjective request used in ASP advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The ASP posts this in hopes of attracting “better” clientele.ProviderProstitute.PSPrivate Show (Dance only).PVPrivate Viewing (Dance only).PSEPorn Star Experience. A session that gives the feeling of being in a Porn or XXX Movie or like having a date with a Porn Star. As with the Girlfriend Experience (GFE), a PSE is not very well defined and definitions will vary wildly. It generally refers more to the tone & tenor of the session (totally wild!) than to specific services provided, but many believe PSE should include the possibility of DATY, UTF, Greek, DFK, NQNS, Russian, COF and a broad array of FS positions.Puffies or puffersBreasts where the entire areola appears ‘puffy’, enlarged, or swollen.PunkA male prostitute.PunterA British slang term for a hobbyist.Pup playA variant of animal play where a submissiveacts like a puppy: barks, whines, eats from a bowl, and generally obeys the master or faces punishment.PVPrivate Viewing. A session that is most often limited to a striptease and self-service. Usually in the context of a Strip Club.PVCPolyvinyl chloride. In skin-tight fetish clothing, a shiny substitute for more expensive materials: leather, rubber and latex. “PVC” is also used as a generic term for PVC proper, latex, vinyl and leather.PWPussy Whipped. Adjective describing a guy controlled by a girl because she gives him sex.PYTPretty Young Thing.


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QueefAn emission of air from the vagina, especially when noisy, aka vaginal fart or vart.


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R & TRub and Tug. A massage followed by a hand job.RARelaxation Assistant.Raincoatcondom.RawSex without condom.RCAReverse Cowgirl Anal.RCGSee Reverse cowgirl.Red wingsThe ‘badge’ a hobbyist earns for performing oral sex (cunnilingus) on an ASP who is menstruating.REQRequest. Used in the subject line of a post to indicate the body contains a request for information. See also 411.REVReview. Used in the subject line of a post to indicate the body contains review of an ASP.Reverse cowgirlWoman rides on top, facing away.Reverse half-and-halfSexual intercourse followed by oral sex to completion.Reverse massageThe client massages the ASP.Reverse oralThe client performs oral sex on the ASP.ReviewA critical evaluation of a provider. May include information on her looks, attitude and service.Rimming or rimjobAnalingus; oral stimulation of the anus.RLDRed Light District. Area rich with prostitution.RMPRussian massage parlor.R.O.B. or ROBRun/Rip Off Bitch. Individuals posing as providers take the money and run without providing any services, aka Cash and Dash.Role playAlso roleplay. Acting out sexual fantasies in a specific scenario, where participants are assigned roles: dog – owner, nurse – patient, teacher – student, etc.Role reversalSame as pegging – penetration of male’s anus by a female with a strap-on dildoRomanAn orgy.RPGRole playing games.Roman showerVomit play.RTFReturn To Fuck.RTFFRead The Fucking Forum.Rubber1) Material popular with BDSM practitioners for its tactile characteristics; 2) Items – primarily special clothing – made of this material; compare to PVC; 3) Condom.RussianRubbing a penis between ASP‘s breasts. Usually results in pearl necklace.Russian (in Australia)Short sex session, aka a “Quickie”.


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SafeSexual activity in which various measures, such as the use of condoms or dental dams, are taken to avoid diseases transmitted by sexual contact. e.g. All activities were safe.San Juan CapistranoBBBJTC and the ASP swallows. See also CIM, BBBJNQNS, birdwatching.Sandbag, sandbaggerA subjective term for a review (or reviewer) that attempts to mislead the reader by giving unwarranted praise to a provider.SansWithout. e.g. She provided French sans beret = BBBJ.ScatDefecation on one’s partner or feces play.ScreeningAn ASP or agency does a pre-session background check on a new client. E.g. collecting verifiable personal info such as the hobbyist’s real name, place of employment, home or work phone, home or work address, and/ or a referral from a trusted provider. Upfront deposits may also be used as a screening tool to hedge against no-shows.Self-reviewAlso Self-post. An ASP or agency poses as a hobbyist, and posts a highly positive review of herself or agency to increase business.Self serviceMasturbation. e.g. “It was a self-servicejack shack” = no contact with the dancer, but the man can masturbate.Semi proAn escort whose main source of income is something other than escorting.Sensory deprivationRestricting somebody’s ability to see, hear, smell, taste and/or touch through the use of blindfolds, earmuffs, hoods, etc.Sensual MassageAlso SM. Indicates a massage with sexual stimulation (usually a hand job).SessionThe time spent with an ASP.Sex workerCatch all phrase sometimes used to describe prostitutes. May also be used in the context of strippers, peep show workers, topless waitresses.SFHSex For Hire.SGStreet Girl.ShemaleTranssexual, particularly one who is living as a woman, but hasn’t had SRS. Penis may or may not get erect.ShillA person who writes unsolicited positive commentary about an ASP in a discussion forum to ‘suck up’ to the ASP or who writes unwarranted positive reviews in exchange for discounts or special favors from an ASP or agency.Shots on goalAttempts to reach orgasm. e.g. ‘She allows multiple shots on goal’ means she allows more than one orgasm per session if the client is able and interested. See MSOG.Sixty ninePartners perform oral sex on each other simultaneously. See also 69.
.Slam, slammedAn unwarranted or overzealous harsh review or abusive criticism of an ASP or agency.SnowballASP takes ejaculate in her mouth and returns it via kissing to the ejaculator.SOSignificant Other. Spouse or partner in a (non-casual) relationship.SOGShot(s) on goal, attempt(s) at orgasm.Soixante-neuf69. Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaneously. See also 69.SOMFSat On My Face.SOPStantard Operating Procedure.South of the borderGenital region.Southern FranceFellatio without a condom. See also French, BBBJ.SPService Provider, prostitute. See also ASP.Spanish (Australian usage)Penis between her breasts, Russian.Spanish (USA usage)Penis, finger or toy comes out of the ASP’s ass, and goes directly into the ASP’s mouth. See also Dirty Sanchez, ATM.spankingSlapping or striking somebody’s buttocks with the palm of the hand or an object like paddle, hairbrush, slapper, etc. A form of punishment / humiliation.SpinnerA very petite provider. So petite in fact, she could easily spin around the client’s erect penis in a position like Asian Cowgirl. One possible etymology: from the action reminiscent of the 1970’s toy, “Sit ‘n’ Spin”.Squirting, squirterFemale ejaculation, an ASP who ejaculates.SRSSexual Reassignment Surgery.STShort Time.StarfishAnus or Unresponsive ASP.STDSexually Transmitted Disease.StingA female police officer poses as an ASP to apprehend unsuspecting clients, or a male police officer poses as a client to apprehend unsuspecting ASPs.Stone butch lesbianA lesbian who gets her pleasure from pleasing her partner. She does not like to be touched sexually.STRShort Term Relationship.Street actionProstitution that is solicited on public streets. Prostitutes (usually on foot) are picked up by clients in motor vehicles. Sexual acts may occur in the vehicle, or at another agreed upon location.StrollA street, strip, or neighborhood that sees heavy street action.SubmissionIn BDSM, giving freely of oneself for the pleasures of others, subordinating oneself (with agreed upon limits).SubmissiveIn BDSM, a person trained by a dominant. Often shortened to Sub. See Submission.Sunshine, sunnyWithout a condom (i.e. no raincoat).SW

  1. Street walker
  2. Sex Worker

SybianA mechanical sex device shaped as a half-barrel with a dildo mounted in the middle.SYTSweet Young Thing.


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Take care of businessPayment is made to provider. e.g. “She wanted to take care of business first.”.Teabag, teabaggingTo dunk ones scrotum into the open mouth of another person.Tie and teaseA game of control over a partner’s orgasm with common use of physical restraints. Often a part of tease and denial.Tease and denialAlso known as erotic denial, orgasm denial. A mild sexual torture in which a high state of sexual arousal is maintained for an extended time without climax.TAMPTherapeutic Asian Massage Parlor.TERThe erotic reviews site, adult services classifieds board, and hobby discussion forums.TGTransgender. Catch-all term for transvestites, transsexuals, shemales, and CDs.TGTBTToo Good To Be True.Throne jobSelf-service. Refers to an establishment that doesn’t offer FS. The premises will only have a large chair or “throne” for you to sit on and masturbate while the woman dances for you.TinaCrystal meth.Tipping requiredThe ASP demands more than the advertised price in order to perform, or bargains hard for various services. See also upselling, hidden charges.To completionUntil orgasm.TOFTTTake One For The Team. What a hobbyist is said to do when they see an enigmatic ASP. Some argue that a hobbyist is only TOFTT when the experience ends up to be a bad experience. Others argue that if the hobbyist doesn’t report back in some way, e.g., with a review, then the hobbyist has not TOFTT.TopIn homosexual parlance: the active partner. In BDSM: the dominant.Toss the saladAnalingus.Training1) BDSM slavery; a way of letting the Submissive understand that the Dominant is their master. 2) Any specific scenario used to convey the message from #1: slave training, pup training, pony training, etc.Trans, trannyAn inclusive term, encompassing transgender, transsexual and other gender variant people.TransgenderA person whose gender expression is different from how society says they are “supposed” to be. Transgender can be an umbrella term for cross-dressers, transsexuals, intersex people and other gender-variant individuals.TranssexualA person with the urge to be the opposite sex. They may or may not choose to have gender reassignment surgery.Translated French, TFOral sex with a condom.Translation, translatorCondom, e.g., “She spoke fluent French without a translator” = BBBJ.TransvestiteA person who sometimes wears clothes traditionally worn by and associated with the opposite sex; typically a male who cross-dresses occasionally by habit or compulsion.Trick

  1. A sex act for money, as in ‘She is turning tricks‘.
  2. A man who patronizes prostitutes, as in ‘That trick was a FOBU’.

Tri FA devotee to the “Find them, Fuck them, Forget them” strategy.Trip to islandsGreek, anal. Also a “tour of the islands”.Trolling

  1. The act of driving around looking for a prostitute. As in cruising.
  2. Posting to a discussion board with the intent to anger or incite others. One who does so is referred to as a ‘troll’.


  1. Transsexual. A person with the urge to be the opposite sex. They may or may not choose to have gender reassignment surgery.
  2. Table Shower.

TTATight Tan Ass.TuftPubic hair.TUMATongue Up My Ass.Turning tricksProstitution.TVTransvestite. A person who sometimes wears clothes traditionally worn by and associated with the opposite sex; typically a male who cross-dresses occasionally by habit or compulsion.TVSWTransvestite Street Walker.Two Call SystemThe general location is revealed during the first call; location specifics are revealed on the second call.


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Uncle LeoA law enforcement officer.umbrellaCondom.Uncovered, or untranslatedWithout a condom.UpsellingAn ASP takes the advertised fee upfront, but in the midst of the session she asks for more money for more services. (e.g. She might undress and give a massage for the advertised $$, but then ask for an additional $ for French, or $$ for FS, etc.), aka hidden charges.UTFUntranslated French. Oral sex without a condom.UTRUnder The Radar; an ASP who maintains a very low profile; generally does not advertise, does not accept reviews, does not have a website and does not participate in hobby forums.


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